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Roka:
The
Roka ceremony is conducted after the prospective bride
and groom have met and approved each other. The significance
of the ceremony is akin to an engagement where the boy
and girl give their commitment to get married to each
other. After this ceremony they are free to court each
other. The Roka is performed at the house of the bride-to-be.
So the family and relatives of the prospective groom
must go to her house for the ceremony. The ceremony
consists of a simple puja that is conducted by a purohit,
followed by an exchange of gifts between the two families.
Sagan and Chunni Chadana:
Both
these rituals are performed close to the wedding date.
Nowadays they are combined together for the sake of
convenience. The ceremonies are usually conducted in
a banquet hall or a club. The purohit performs a havan
(a puja in front of a sacred fire). The father of the
bride-to-be applies tilak on the forehead of the groom-to-be.
The bride is dressed in clothes and jewellery that have
been presented to her by her future in-laws. She is
also presented a red chunni (a traditional scarf) by
the sister/sister-in-law of her future husband. She
receives more jewellery and gifts from her in-laws as
part of the ceremony. Her mother-in-law feeds her boiled
rice and milk as part of the ritual. Finally, the prospective
bride and groom exchange rings. 
Sangeet:
Besides the festivity and frolic that mark the days
leading up to the wedding, the families of the prospective
bride and groom hold a special sangeet (singing) session.
Friends and close family members are invited and traditional
wedding songs are sung. Sometimes professional dholwalis
(female musicians who play the traditional drum) are
invited for a special touch. Both the sides exchange
gifts and sweets. 
Mehendi:
It
is mandatory for the bride-to-be to have henna on her
hands and feet. The henna is sent by the future mother-in-law
of the bride-to-be. A relative, friend or a professional
mehandiwali (henna artist) applies henna for the bride-to-be.
The ritual is marked by festivity. The girl friends
and close female relatives of the bride-to-be sing and
dance joyously while the mehandi is being applied to
her. The henna is usually left on overnight so that
it leaves behind a rich dark hue. After the application
ceremony, delicious snacks and meals are served to all
present. 
Chuda ceremony:
The
maternal uncle of the bride-to-be plays an important
role in this ceremony. The oldest maternal uncle and
aunt as well as the girl's parents usually fast throughout
the day, or at least until the completion of this ceremony.
The purohit performs a havan. After the puja, the chuda
(a set of red and cream ivory bangles) are touched by
all present to signify their blessings and good wishes
for the bride-to-be. The bride must slip the chuda on
her wrist. This is followed by an iron bangle (for good
luck) with shells and beads, and a mauli that the pandit
ties around her wrist. Flower petals are showered on
the girl after the ceremony and prasad (food that has
been offered to God or blessed during a puja) is distributed
among all. The girl's maternal uncle and aunt, friends
and cousins tie kaliras (silver, gold or gold plated
traditional ornaments that are tied to the chuda). Before
departing for her husband's home, the bride must tap
one of her unwed female friends or cousins with her
kaliras. According to popular belief, the one who is
tapped thus will be the next one to marry. 
Ghara ghardoli and vatna:
This
ritual demands that the bride-to-be stay at home in
her old clothes for a couple of days before her wedding.
She must sit in the vicinity of four lit diyas or oil
lamps so that the glow from them is reflected on her
face. All these measures are believed to contribute
to a beautiful glowing look on her wedding day. A sibling
and the sibling's spouse usually fill a pitcher of water
from a nearby temple and this water is added to the
bath of the bride-to-be. Before her bath, vatna or uptan
(a paste of powdered turmeric and mustard oil) is applied
on her body by female relatives and friends. The uptan
is believed to have purifying properties. She is given
a bath after this ritual and her old garments are given
away to a poor person. Both, the ghara ghardoli and
the vatna ceremonies are also performed for the groom
at his house. Here the pitcher of water is brought for
his bath by his bhabi (elder brother's wife). 
Bridal dress:
The
bride is dressed by her mother, female relatives and
friends amid much gaiety. She may wear a sari or a lehenga
in traditional colours like red, orange or magenta.
She is adorned with traditional gold jewellery like
a nose ring, etc. 
Bridegroom's attire:
The
groom dresses in formal attire, which may be traditional
or western. A young nephew or cousin also dons similar
attire. He is called the sarbala (caretaker of the groom)
and accompanies him on his mare or in his car.
Sehrabandi:
A
puja is performed after the groom dons his wedding attire.
His sehra or turban is blessed by his relatives, as
is the silver mukut or crown that goes on top of the
turban. At the end of the ceremony, those present bless
the groom and give him gifts or, more commonly, cash.
Ghodi, Vag goodti
and duppata varna:
The
groom's bhabi lines his eyes with surma (kohl). After
this, the groom's sisters and cousins feed and decorate
his mare. If the groom chooses to use a car for the
occasion, then the car is decorated. His relatives use
cash for the varna, a ceremony that is supposed to ward
off the evil eye. The cash is given away to the poor.
Milni:
The
milni ceremony takes place when the groom's procession
reaches the wedding venue. The groom and his relatives
are welcomed with flower garlands by the bride's close
relatives. The chief aim of this ceremony is to help
both sides to get acquainted with each other. The girl's
relatives give shagoon to the groom's close relatives,
beginning with his grandfather, father, uncles and brothers.
The shagoon usually consists of cash and is given to
honour the relatives.
Varmala:
The
bride and groom exchange garlands during this ceremony.
Those present indulge in much teasing and festivity
to mark this happy occasion. Often, this ceremony acts
as an effective ice-breaker for the nervous bride and
her groom.
The
wedding puja:
The mahurat or auspicious time for the wedding ceremony
is usually set after dinner. When the mahurat approaches,
the purohit first performs a puja for the groom. The
groom chants a few mantras. This is when the girl's
young relatives grab the groom's untended shoes and
hide it away to be returned after the ceremony for a
fee. The fee - kalecharis - gold for the bride's sisters
and silver for her cousins. Once the groom's puja is
over, the purohit performs another puja with the couple
and their parents. The bride is given away by her father
in a ceremony called the kanyadaan. This is followed
by another ceremony - the pheras (rounds). The bride
and groom go around the sacred fire with the bride's
sari tied to the groom's pagdi with the help of the
red chunni used in the ghara ghardoli ceremony.
The bride and The groom take seven symbolic steps together
in a promise of lifetime friendship and fidelity. Each
step asks for the Lord's blessings in the following:
- May
the Lord lead us to sustenance
- May
the Lord lead us to strength
- May
the Lord lead us to prosperity
- May
the Lord lead us to the source of all bliss
- May
the Lord lead us to good progeny
- May
the Lord lead us to enjoy all the seasons and longevity
- May
the Lord lead us to union, devotion, and companionship.
At
the end of the ceremony, the newly-weds touch the feet
of the groom's parents and the elders present to take
their blessings. The bride changes into the clothes
presented by her in-laws, while her relatives apply
tilak on the groom's forehead. 
Vidaai:
This
ceremony marks the departure of the bride from her parental
house. She throws phulian or puffed rice over her head.
She conveys her good wishes for her parents through
this gesture. A beautifully decorated palanquin or car
takes her to her new home. She is usually accompanied
by her brother. Her relatives throw coins in the wake
of this procession.
Reception at
the boy's house:
The
newly weds are welcomed in a ceremony called the pani
bharna. The groom's mother performs the traditional
aarti (puja) with a pitcher of water. She makes seven
attempts to drink the water from the pitcher. The groom
must allow her to succeed only at the seventh attempt.
The bride must, with her right foot, kick the sarson
ka tel (mustard oil) that is put on the sides of the
entrance door before she enters the house. Along with
her husband, she must offer puja in their room. Then
they must touch the feet of the elders in a ceremony
called matha tekna. The rest of the evening is spent
in playing enjoyable traditional game
Phera dalna:
This
ceremony demands that the newly weds visit the bride's
parents on the day after the wedding. They are usually
fetched by the bride's brother. The bride's parents
host a lunch to mark the occasion. They also give a
lot of gifts to the newly weds.
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